"Not by might,
not by power, but by His Spirit"
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Once you break the stronghold, once you learn to walk
with God, hunger will become a nuisance that you’d rather ignore for a
while and you’ll be interested in other things. You’ll suddenly
realize you haven’t eaten all day and maybe you should.
But most of us fall before we even get to hunger,
right? There is the craving for comfort food that has nothing to do
with actual hunger. I would get those whenever I was emotionally
drained, ‘or stressed, or allowing what I call "toxic thoughts" which
are negative thoughts about anyone and anything, especially myself.
This is why dieting never ever worked for me. It’s one giant toxic
thought loaded with "I’m not good enough" and "You overate again! Why
can’t you stop eating?" And even if successful, negative thoughts
abound with,
"I was good yesterday, why doesn’t the scale show it?"
"Great, I lost 5 lbs and I’m still as big as a house"
or "I lost weight and nobody seems to notice"
Then there’s the dis-settling feeling when someone
well-meaning says, "You’ve lost weight! You look great!" I’m still not
sure why I resent that somehow, I think it’s because I know I’m still
me whether I’m up or down a few pounds, and somehow the heavier me
just got slammed. It’s a dilemma because your friends are sincerely
happy for you and that’s awesome, and you know it was meant with the
best intentions but somehow it still hurts. So just see through that
and know that they love you.
In fact, know that to your depths, fat or thin, you
are beloved! You are a masterpiece of GOD today! If you struggle in
anything, it is because you have failed to fully claim that truth. You
are His own creation! He designed you and He loves what He has
created! You are perfectly formed to the last strand of hair on your
head, God delights in YOU!
Even now, some may be reading these words thinking,
"yeah yeah, where is the part that tells me when or what to eat and
lose this weight…" But this IS the battle before you that has been
crippling you all of these years. If you would just stop and begin to
see the glory of God, the MAJESTY of His being, and understand that He
has been all about you, calling to you, waiting for you, pursuing and
fighting for you…if you could just get a glance at this truth, if you
could see yourself as HE sees you, your life will be transformed.
Radically transformed.
"We love Him because He first loved us." We are to
love Him with all of our hearts, minds, souls and strength but that
first starts with the recognition of His love for us. We need to know
who He is or we might believe so many who misrepresent Him.
God restores us, He dresses us in white linen, in
garments of praise, with a ring of authority and the oil of gladness.
You, precious daughter, are of such value to Him, and the wonder of it
is that He can focus on all of us at the same time to such depths
because He is omnipresent. And He already cares. He always has. In
various ways, we have been chasing after our lovers when all the time
He was right there, waiting, with a truly pure and holy love, a love
that we were born for.
Christ has been right here, waiting to know us so
intimately that He indwells us, never leaves us, is thinking of us
when we fall asleep at night and is still thinking of us when we wake
up in the morning. He even knows us better than we know ourselves,
every word of our childhood was recorded and kept like a precious
picture. Whatever wounds we have suffered through life, God has been
there offering to help and has been, strengthening us that we would
shine in the bigger picture when we finally turn to Him and surrender
our futile attempts to take on life and the enemy alone.
THERE IS NO FAILURE WHEN YOU LEARN TO TRUST
You cannot fail at this because it can’t be measured
by the scale. If you think it can, then you never started. This is all
discovery. You can’t MAKE this happen, for it’s "Not by might, not
by power, but by My Spirit, sayeth the LORD" (Zech 4:6) For all I
know, God might bless your socks off with instant success with the
slightest effort, He may have been waiting for you to come to this
moment your whole life. Or He might simply answer, "not now" or "not
yet." But whatever His answer is, you have already won, because you
have started seeking HIS will for your life.
WHEN GOD SAYS NO
Struggling with weight loss reminds me of the
Egyptians pursuing the Israelites toward the Red Sea. They were going
in the wrong direction and it is written, "He troubled the army of the
Egyptians. And He took off their chariot wheels, so that they drove
them with difficulty…" (Exodus 14:24)
Jesus Christ is our Good Shepherd and we are His
beloved sheep. When we are determined to run to destructive places,
God WILL sometimes do what He must to keep us from harm. He knows the
beginning and the end, He knows what the end result will be if He lets
us keep going, and like the Good Shepherd, He will stop us.
I remember when I was in high school, I asked God to
help me diet and was discouraged with Him when help didn’t come. I
felt completely at the mercy of a compulsion to eat "that which I will
not to do." After all, I took 5 seconds to ASK for His help, why
didn’t He deliver me?
But looking back on those days and the years that
followed, I realize that I was asking the Good Shepherd to give me
what I needed to run with the wolves. My goals were completely wrong.
Visions of water skiing looking hot in a bikini were my ambitions. My
role models…well, I was built more like Raquel Welch so to look like
Julia Roberts wasn’t going to happen. But Raquel would find just as
much trouble and more if God had given me what I asked for.
My mind was also completely steeped in the American
culture. I was young, impressionable, and my head was full of the
theme of "About last night." I was raised on movies that portrayed
beautiful women jumping in the sack and somehow ending up with a true
love that would fight for her into eternity…after a one night
stand…wait…is that how it goes?
How did Julia Roberts (Pretty Woman), Demi Moore
(About last night) and Meg Ryan (Presidio) jump in the sack so
aggressively and find a wedding ring? My generation watched this theme
over and over again and yet our sexual revolution usually ended up
with somebody dropping us off at Planned Parenthood to butcher our
young. Wait…what?
So Lord, please help me stop this self-destructive
behavior as I reach for this fattening food that I’m craving, help me
lose weight so I can wear that new bikini and drive men absolutely
nuts with my sexuality…a toy that I have absolutely no idea how it
effects the male species but somehow it’s supposed to bring me a
husband that loves me forever…
Uh…yeah. I think the Lord might have broken a few
chariot wheels in that endeavor and I am forever grateful.
Our motives are essential, and only you with the help
of the Holy Spirit, can truly examine the motives of your heart. Our
culture is so messed up that there are actually women who claim to be
Christian that would ask to lose weight that their married boyfriend
would actually leave his wife and marry them like he promised. Now
isn’t that a whopper of an ambition?
We can fool ourselves but we can’t fool God. For a
long time, I was convinced that I had the right motives, but God can
even see the "what would happen Ifs"…He knows the end result of
everything He blesses us with. So even if we sincerely intend it for
good, God knows how it would end before we even ask. For instance, I
might be asking to be thin and gorgeous with the right desire to
attract a husband, or to keep my husband’s attention at home, but God
knows how it would actually play out and the Holy Spirit might
actually hinder you from achieving destructive goals. And if you think
you’re better off dumping God to achieve your dreams, well good luck
with being your own god. The thing is, God indwells us, He knows how
it feels to be us because He knows our pain through us. He knows how
the AIDS victim feels, He knows the desperate cries of the woman about
to abort her child, or the ripping of her heart as she gives that
precious little one up for adoption…these were not the plans He had
for us. This is not what He will move mountains to enable us to
achieve. This is something that we trust the Good Shepherd for, to
keep us from the horrific consequences that the enemy is always trying
to lure us into. And sometimes that lure is how great it would feel to
strut around in a sexy bikini, followed by that drink with that great
looking guy that’s pursuing me…
Can you imagine a Hollywood script that contained
these words, "Mom, I’m so disappointed, I really liked this girl, but
I took her out once and she treated me like a man whore." Nope, that
doesn’t fit the liberal Hollywood narrative or the music industry.
It’s a rare movie or song that has a positive message and generation
after generation is falling for the lies. Our public schools are
further promoting sexual promiscuity and our government insists on
funding Planned Parenthood to keep the butcher mills running.
Meanwhile legislation is continually introduced to lower the age of
consent. Parents would not be able to legally protect their children
from being seduced by pedophiles. The world is going insane and in the
middle of it all, we ask God to help us lose weight that we can play
deeper in it. We don’t know what we’re asking for.
So before you bow your head before the King of King
and Lord of Lords to ask that He help you lose weight, examine your
heart. What is it that you really desire? We all want to be healthy,
we all want to look good, but how much of it is about competition with
other women? How much of it is because you want to feel sexy and turn
heads, distract men, make other women envious, etc? It took me a long
time to be honest with that one. The answer might make you want to
look for a different "diet" to help you get what you want, because if
those are your goals, your goals might be the exact reason why you’re
banging your head against a wall and wondering why you can’t get
anywhere.
So what is the right motivation? For me, there isn’t
one. There is no reason for me to hate myself, to tell myself that I’m
not good enough, a thousand beratings every time I look in the mirror.
That isn’t what God wants for us either. That’s the goal of the enemy,
to tie us all up in self-loathing, to tell us we’re worthless, to
bundle us up with anger and shame and frustration…how able are we to
love others when we’re preoccupied with how much we hate ourselves? Do
you think that you don’t hate yourself? Then why are you trying to
change? Would you love that precious overweight friend any more if she
was 10 or 100 lbs thinner? Doesn’t it make you angry that anyone would
think that you would? Likewise, why would you love yourself more or
less if you were heavier or thinner, you are still you, and you are
precious in His eyes, a jewel, a treasure today, just as you are!
Or maybe the answer is yes, you would love others more
if they lost weight because you won’t allow yourself friendships with
the fat and less beautiful. You don’t want that kind of bad influence
around you and you constantly remind yourself that if you let yourself
go, that you could look like THAT fat acquaintance. If that’s your
stimulus to keep the pounds off, then you’re sacrificing relationships
with some of the most precious people you could ever have the
privilege of getting to know. You’re in your own unique prison
designed by the enemy, a cold ugly cell suffering your own set of
chills… but the answer is the same, it’s Jesus Christ. He pursues you,
He fights for you, He even died for you, that He would rise again and
call you to Himself, the Good Shepherd calling to lead you to green
pastures that your cup runneth over. No matter where you are, no
matter what condition your body or heart, God loves you completely,
while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us! "Greater love has no
one than this, than to lay down one’s life for his friends." (John
15:13)
WHEN THE WELL RUNS DRY
For months I have walked
this walk and am continually stunned at how easily weight has dropped
off because it truly is, "not by might, not by power, but by HIS
Spirit" (Zech 4:6) Weight loss has been an after effect and a struggle
because it can be so distracting. It’s too easy to forget the true
reason I’m praying, especially when I purposely TRY to forget because
it’s too painful when I dwell on the spiritual state of my sons. I go
through the steps, reading the Bible every morning after praying God
be with me and teach me, followed by prayer for people, I praise Him
with my MP3 player and the most amazing worship songs for me that I
have found but we are ALL DIFFERENT so chances are you won’t like
these: (https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL4AAAE8DCCFFB4151)
It is so important to find songs that moves you. God made us unique
and our tastes and desires are unique, so seek with the Holy Spirit
for those songs that reverberate the symphony of your relationship.
When my focus is on God, well it’s like I just woke up
minus 70 lbs. I didn’t always have this much to lose, but I have never
been successful at weight loss, ever. I might have been able to lose a
few after much head banging and struggle, but it always came back with
a vengeance.
But you can feel so strong and secure and walking this
effortlessly when suddenly it all that comes to a screeching halt. A
few books have described it as under serious spiritual attack. That
makes sense, after all you’ve been following the pied piper quietly
for years and are suddenly making a U-turn. When it happened to me, it
felt like I fell off a horse and was sitting in the mud wondering how
to get up and get back on that horse again. It wasn’t easy. Old habits
can suddenly rear their ugly heads and a scripture about dogs
returning to eat their own vomit or pigs back in the mud?... those are
not helpful…in fact they were drowning me in condemnation…hey wait,
that’s how the enemy works, doesn’t he, Satan and his minions know the
Scriptures better than I do, so I needed to find that sword of the
Spirit and get back in the saddle fast!
Circumstances roared into my life. A few cruel and
thoughtless actions by loved ones, discouragement that my sons seem no
closer to God than months ago, doing more for others than ever before
and not seeing any appreciation whatsoever gets magnified. Then in the
middle of one of my fasts, my son is injured up north. I drop
everything and run up there, only to feel extremely intrusive and
awkward as I try to help. A couple of days turns into five as a host
of delays of surgery and mishaps occur. I am completely thrown off of
my focus on God. My morning routine of time with Him should have been
easily continued but regrettably wasn’t. All of my smoothie and soup
routines are thrown at the wayside as I try to improvise while
stocking my son’s refrigerator and cooking a surplus for easy access
as he recovers after I’m gone.
Things spiraled down from there. I prayed to be
replenished and refreshed in the Spirit but heaven seemed silent. I
had lost the edge. Finally a Sabbath, a time of rest and prayer and
keeping it holy. Meditating on His word, it seemed illuminated to me
that our choices are all like a running river. Where it is used to
flowing, it flows. It’s like when I water my potted plants, if I
dribble a little water at a time, that dribble will follow the last
dribble and the majority of the roots will dry up. But if you flood
the topsoil all at once, the pressure of the water evenly seeps
thoroughly throughout and everything is nourished. That’s how to get
back in the saddle, devote a whole day to spiritual reset. For me that
means no news, no politics, nothing of the flesh that wears me down.
Whatever it takes to keep that day holy.
"Walk in the Spirit, not in the flesh." (Zech 4:6)
I plan on hammering that text into a piece of leather and wearing
it as a bracelet as written in (Deut.11:18). In fact I plan on quite a
few Scripture bracelets to wear depending on what I need for that day.
I bought one from Good Works a while back and love It, for a while the
leather strap would hang down into my palm as I walked, and it felt
like a reminder that God was walking with me, the strap suddenly
becoming known, caressing my hand much like a Father walking with a
child, His familiar hand suddenly finding and holding my hand. And I
remember how God loves me.
I read those words all the time and in so many ways. I
know them to be true but can so quickly forget without reminders, just
like a neglected wife or husband, we all need reminders. I find myself
impatient with pastors who preach that we need to love each other
better, and we do, but just telling ourselves on command to love isn’t
how to generate sincere love. I love others when I fill up on God’s
love for me. It comes down from heaven and flows through me. While we
were yet sinners, God loves us. There is nothing that can come between
us and the love of God. But unless I sense it, unless it surrounds me,
unless I allow myself to drink it in, I am so quickly distracted by
the things of the world and God’s love becomes forgotten. And oh!
There is no greater loss than the distraction from a sense of God’s
agape love! From that comes God’s peace. Shalom. The disciples often
wrote, "May the peace of God be upon you." His communion, His
presence, His indwelling, the peace of God beyond all understanding.
THAT is what enables us to truly love each other, without that sense
of God’s love we look for such empty replacements from the world! And
once we choose one, how Satan’s minions will chase after us, reminding
and tempting us with it if ever we walk away.
"Walk in the Spirit, not in the flesh." Once we
choose the walk of the world, it makes it harder to change course. The
more time we spend on that road, the deeper the rut we make for
ourselves. I think it is part of the reason the Sabbath is so
important. It’s a time of watering all of our roots, a time of reset.
Flood yourself in the Spirit for a day by prayer and keeping it holy,
and then choose that rich course for the week. And if you stumble
during the week, it’s important to quickly change course as soon as
possible. Don’t wallow in it or decide to blow it for the whole day
and begin fresh tomorrow. Every moment in the flesh further entrenches
that rut of a road. It’s just like jumping back on the horse. You
might get thrown a few times but don’t give up, for God will never
give up on you. HE will finish what HE has begun.
"…being confident of this very thing, that He who
has begun a good work in you will complete it until the day of
Jesus Christ" (Phil 1:6)
And if you have godly reasons for being on this walk
of the Spirit, He will finish it, He surely will, but in HIS timing
and purposes and results.
SIDENOTES: HOW DID IT HAPPEN?
There are so MANY reasons for food compulsion
including the generational one of mothers expressing their love with
food, a nightly FEAST of food, an abundance that starving Americans
during the Great Depression could only dream of. Those dreams crashed
into the industrial reality of chemically altered foods and our dreams
avalanched into our nightmare: equating food with love and provided an
empty substitute. It’s the ultimate "looking for love in all the wrong
places" buried so deep within our childhoods that we can’t understand
where it’s coming from or how to combat it.
And who would imagine that we need to combat the
loving hand of our moms, comforting us, caring for us…15 years of
trusting mom’s love since before the understanding of time and memory
has been a difficult foe, hasn’t it? And so Americans fail and fail
again at resisting the flavors they crave because it represents the
unconditional and complete love of most moms.
Some of us have outwardly reached success by
reprogramming our minds. Nutrition has become their all consuming
passion but the energy and effort is a neurosis in itself without
rest. Some reach it temporarily only to fall back and self-condemn in
a defeated pit, drowning in despair. How did mom’s love become so
toxic?
Add a few personal reasons that we’ve picked up since
birth and we find ourselves lost and confused, trapped in what feels
like a prison of self-destruction and self-loathing, doomed to fail at
our next attempt to lose weight. The extremes that we go through to
change our behavior is a billion dollar industry and we spiral down
grasping at diet drinks and sugar substitutes while MSG is pumped into
our foods under different names, a chemical used to make mice FAT so
they can figure out how to make them thin again. We are fed that under
the guise of dozens of different labels and so many processed foods
purposely make us fat. We are SO set up! And the enemy merely has to
stir the coals a little to fan the flames of our despair.
Meanwhile, the Father of Life, the Alpha and the
Omega, the King of Kings and Lord of Lords stands near. He knows and
understands us better than we understand ourselves and His heart is
ever towards us. "Here I am, come to Me, lay down your burdens and
come." Some of us have visited Him for a bit, some have cried out to
Him weeping in despair, some of us actually know Him but skim over
some of the all-important truths about Him, which is His unbelievable
depth of love for you. Check yourself…even now, are you thinking,
"yeah yeah, God loves me, I’ve heard that before."
A deep and intimate relationship with God is what
breaks us out of all prisons. More than that, it’s the ultimate reason
of our existence. Without Him, all roads become snares eventually.
Look at any lifestyle and follow it to it’s completion, in the
twilight years of the elderly, who are the joy filled? How is the
athlete doing in his 80’s and 90’s? How popular is the geriatric
beauty queen? Take any measure of success and follow it to his or her
last years, where do we find fulfillment? Is it the grandmother
surrounded by family? Absolutely. But how does she feel when the
holiday is over and everyone goes home? Is she alone, or has she found
the ever increasing love and fulfillment that only Christ brings?
Love and fulfillment. We look for it in husbands and
wives, in competition and sports, in empty [decadent food] cartons.
Needle or spoon, they are all empty substitutes for the love of God,
the water that (how did Jesus put it) the water that you will cause
you to never thirst again.
"Oh, taste and see that the Lord is good;
Blessed is the man who trusts in Him!" (Psalm 34:8)
God understands us even when we don’t understand
ourselves. He was there through our whole childhood. He saw how we
were molded and shaped, from the smallest slight to complete
devastation, God saw it all. He remembers, He is the keeper of all
memory and He knows every tear. Nothing is wasted, nothing is too
small for God’s notice. Scriptures tell us that He even knows the
number of hairs on our heads. Think about that. He’s even aware if you
lose an eyelash…do you love anyone so much that you care if they lose
an eyelash?
Yet in all these things we are more than
conquerors through Him who loved us. For I am persuaded that
neither death nor life, nor angels nor principalities nor powers,
nor things present nor things to come, nor height nor depth, nor
any other created thing, shall be able to separate us from the
love of God which is in Christ Jesus our Lord (Romans 8:39)
"Yeah, yeah, God loves me…let’s move on." Really?
Why do we avoid focusing on God’s love so much? We run
from it. He stands with His arms open wide and few of us really focus
on Who He is. I don’t know how to describe how I feel about my sons
and "magic" is not a good Biblical word, but there Is something
magical about every molecule of my sons. It’s hard to see their flaws
because I’m so blinded by who they are and have always been…so it is
with God only moreso. Except God sees truth, He is righteous, He is
holy, He sees it all and is the ultimate Judge of all. Maybe that’s
why we run, we don’t want to be judged. We know we are flawed, we know
we’ve done wrong for we all have. We know we are selfish, even the
most generous among us don’t give away everything as Jesus did and
walk around homeless with no where to lay our heads. We are all first
concerned with our own comfort and safety before we turn to
charity with few exceptions. That’s selfishness and we’re all guilty.
To be judged for that and so much more doesn’t really appeal, does it?
But the Bible says that’s why God came down in the flesh.
"In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was
with God, and the Word was God… and the Word became flesh and dwelt
among us, and we beheld His glory, the glory as of the only begotten
of the Father, full of grace and truth."
(John 1:1; 14)
Jesus purchased us with His own blood, our sins are
not only forgiven, they’re forgotten as far as the east is from the
west. How far is that? The distance continually expands for all time.
If you want to be rid of that food compulsion, you
have probably realized you need to replace it with what satisfies.
That emptiness that we feel WILL NOT be ignored, and all of mankind
finds a neverending list of different ideas to try to fill it with.
Some might seem to fill the void for a short time, but again, who is
the joyfilled during their sunset years? Who has invested in what
lasts? Who has discovered the keys to the prison doors and been set
free?
God bless you in your efforts and in revealing to you
the Truth of Who He is and how He feels about you TODAY. Because when
you have that and your heart explodes in response, that’s the real
victory.
The Father’s Loveletter:
You may not know Me, but I know everything about
you…
Psalm 139:1
I know when you sit down and when you rise up…
Psalm 139:2
I am familiar with all your ways…
Psalm 139:3
Even the very hairs on your head are numbered…
Matthew 10:29-31
For you were made in My image…
Genesis 1:27
In Me you live and move and have your being…
Acts 17:28
For you are My offspring…
Acts 17:28
I knew you even before you were conceived
Jeremiah 1:4-5
I chose you when I planned creation…
Ephesians 1:11-12
You were not a mistake, for all your days are
written in My book…
Psalm 139:15-16
I determined the exact time of your birth and where
you would live…
Acts 17:26
You are fearfully and wonderfully made…
Psalm 139:15-16
I knit you together in your mother’s womb
Psalm 139:13
And brought you forth on the day you were born…
Psalm 71:6
I have been misrepresented by those who don’t know
Me…
John 8:41-44
I am not distant and angry, but am the complete
expression of love…
1 John 4:16
And it is My desire to lavish My love on you simply
because you are My child and I am your Father…
1 John 3:1
I offer you more than your earthly father ever
could…
Matthew 7:11
For I am the perfect father…
Matthew 5:48
Every good gift that you receive comes from My hand…
James 1:17
For I am your Provider and I meet all your needs…
Matthew 6:31-33
My plan for your future has always been filled with
hope…
Jeremiah 29:11
Because I love you with an everlasting love…
Jeremiah 31:3
My thoughts toward you are countless as the sand on
the seashore…
Psalm 193:17-18
And I rejoice over you with singing…
Zephaniah 3:17
I will never stop doing good to you…
Jeremiah 32:40
For you are My treasured possession….
Exodus 19:5
I desire to establish you with all My heart and all
My soul
Jeremiah 32:41
And I want to show you great and marvelous things…
Jeremiah 33:3
If you seek Me with all your heart, you will find
Me…
Deuteronomy 4:29
Delight in Me and I will give you the desires of
your heart…
Psalm 37:4
For it is I who gave you those desires…
Philippians 2:13
I am able to do more for you than you could possibly
imagine…
Ephesians 3:20
For I am your greatest encourager…
2 Thessalonians 2:16-17
I am also the Father who comforts you in all your
troubles…
2 Corinthians 1:3-4
When you are brokenhearted, I am close to you…
Psalm 34:18
As a shepherd carries a lamb, I have carried you
close to My heart…
Isaiah 40:11
One day I will wipe away every tear from your eyes
and will take away all the pain you have suffered on this earth
Revelation 21:3-4
I am your Father, and I love you even as I love my
Son, Jesus…
John 17:23
For in Jesus, My love for you is revealed…
John 17:26
He is the exact representation of My being…
Hebrews 1:3
He came to demonstrate that I am for you, not
against you…
Romans 8:31
And to tell you that I am not counting your sins…
2 Corinthians 5:18-19
Jesus died so that you and I could be reconciled…
2 Corinthians 5:18-19
His death was the ultimate expression of My love for
you…
1 John 4:10
I gave up everything I loved that I might gain your
love
Romans 8:31-32
If you receive the gift of my Son Jesus, you receive
Me…
1 John 2:23
And nothing will ever separate you from My love
again…
Romans 8:38-39
Come home and I’ll throw the biggest party heaven
has ever seen…
Luke 15:7
I have always been Father, and will always be
Father…
Ephesians 3:14-15
My question is… Will you be My child?…
John 1:12-13
I am waiting for you…
Luke 15:11-32
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